Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Happy Birthday Noah
I am Grateful
When I'm worried and I can't sleep
Yes I am very grateful. And as my husband so wisely said, “Being grateful implies that you are grateful to someone.” I am grateful to my Father in Heaven. All that I have been given has come from Him. He even sent His Son to die for me so that I will have the opportunity of eternal life with my Heavenly Father and my family. What more could I possibly want? And so to express my thanks and joy and praise I turn again to a song, one of my very favorite hymns: Praise to the Lord, the Almighty (text by Joachim Neander, 1650–1680; trans. by Catherine Winkworth, 1829–1878. Music: From Stralsund Gesangbuch, 1665; arr. by William S. Bennett, 1816–1875, and Otto Goldschmidt, 1829–1907)
Praise to the Lord, the Almighty, the King of creation!
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Something was Hilarious!
Monday, November 24, 2008
Contrary Mary
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Hip-baby
This is her left hip. It looks just like the other one doesn't it?
I wish I could show you her first x-ray. I first saw it on our first visit to Shriner's on Feb. 10, 2006. (Naomi was born on Feb 18.) I can't describe how I felt when I first saw it. I'll try to show what it looked like in the picture below: The part at the bottom of the arrow (the head of the femur) was not in Ellen's hip socket like it is in this x-ray. It was clear up where the point of the arrow is. Yikes, huh? It is called hip dysplaysia.
The solution to this problem was for the doctor to pull Ellen's leg down into the socket while she was asleep, of course. Then she would be put in a spica cast for 3 to 4 months to hold the bone in place and help the socket develop. This procedure is called a closed reduction. It had to be done soon though, because as she got older her tendons would get tighter and not allow the bone to be pulled down. At almost 20 months, she was actually quite old to be treated for this. Most cases of hip dysplaysia are caught and treated at birth, and most of them only have hips that slide around, not hips that are completely dislocated. Feb. 10 was a Friday, and Dr. Baird advised doing the closed reduction on Monday the 13th. He was afraid that if we waited till after the baby was born, it would be too long. He also felt that it would be better if I didn't have a brand new baby when Ellen was waking up from the anesthesia and trying to adjust to being stuck in a cast. We scheduled Ellen to be admitted on Monday morning at 6 am, but Dr Baird said to go home and talk to James about it and to really think it over, and if we decided not to do it to just call and let them know. We decided to go ahead. On Sunday night our home teachers came over and helped James give Ellen a blessing. One of them, Brother Stucki, also brought some balloons. This is Ellen playing with the fish balloon Brother Stucki made for her.
Very early the next morning, Ellen and I went back to Spokane. The closed reduction went really well. Waking up in a spica cast was not so good though. I had never seen Ellen so upset. I was trying to stay calm so that I could comfort her, but I could not keep myself from crying. I just kept thinking, "What have I done to my baby?" Ellen did calm down, and actually slept quite a bit that day. They put the cast on her while she was still under the anesthesia, but didn't put the colored layer on till later. She chose pink! This picture was taken three days later.
Every six weeks we had to go back so that Ellen could get a new cast because she was growing. She would have outgrown the original cast. They always put new cast on her while she was under anesthesia. It was also nice to get a new cast because Ellen was wearing them out. She learned to really get around in a spica! She could crawl, roll over, ride a scooter, and eventually even stand up!
James also built her a special table and chair for her to sit in so she could play with toys a little easier.
After 16 weeks, the cast came off on June 12, 2006, just 2 weeks before her 2nd birthday. It was wonderful!!! This is Ellen learning to walk again after she was out of the cast.
Once the cast was gone, she did still have to wear a brace (a rhino brace manufactured by Seattle Seat). At first it was for 20 hours a day, but then after the first 4 months she only had to wear it at night. She wore it for one year. It looked pretty awkward for sleeping, but I guess she was just so used to it that she didn't have any problem sleeping.
The purpose of the brace was to keep Ellen's hip in the best position to help her socket fully develop. Normal hip sockets should be cupped like this:
Because Ellen had gone for so long without anything in her hip socket, it didn't develop quite right and was shaped like this:
For the time being, it wasn't a problem. Her hip was not going to dislocate again, but after a few years it would start slipping around, causing terrible arthritis and most likely hip replacement by the time she was 20. So she had hip surgery on July 26, 2007. A pelvic osteotomy to be more specific. Dr. Baird basically cut her pelvis and moved the bottom part down so that her socket would be shaped properly, then inserted a wedge shaped piece of donated bone into the cut. It is quite common for the bone to be secured with a pin which would later be taken out. But Dr. Baird likes to use bone cement instead. I think it is just powdered calcium that just gets absorbed into the bone. That was a relief to us, especially James as he still has his own screws in his ankle. This x-ray is from 6 weeks after the surgery. The blue line outlines the piece of new bone. If you can picture moving that bottom blue line up, closing that area, you can get an idea of what her socket looked like before the surgery.
After this surgery Ellen had to be in another spica cast, this time it was only 5 and a half weeks though. And her right leg was free from the knee down, so that was really nice. She had wanted a green cast this time, but the hospital was out of green so she chose pink again.
This cast came off on Sept. 4, 2007. And now here we are. As Dr. Baird said pretty early on in this whole thing, "Someday she could be an Olympic runner if she wants to."
Ellen with Dr. Glen Baird on Nov. 17, 2008.
One other thing about Dr. Baird. After one of our many appointments Dr. Baird caught up with us in the hall as we were leaving and said to me, "I noticed your CTR ring and wanted to tell you that I am LDS too." I cried all the way out to the car. I've never had much of a chance to talk to Dr. Baird, except about Ellen's hip. He is a very skilled doctor and surgeon and is usually surrounded by interns and residents and physician assistants. But he has always been excited about our new babies and just so kind and caring. Thank you Dr. Baird!
For more information about hip dysplaysia visit hip-baby.org. I joined the discussion group on that site and got some great ideas, like the special table, using a beanbag chair, and using a hair dryer to dry out her cast when I changed her diaper. I also got a lot of comfort from talking to other mom's whose kids and babies were going through the exact same thing Ellen was. That was a lot of help.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Stephen in the Sky
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Baby Noah
Here's a better view. And those are the red jammies he is wearing.
Just in case a first hair cut isn't enough evidence that Noah is not such a baby any more, just take a look at this little video. It is a little dark, but it get's the idea across.
Noah hardly crawls at all anymore. He still falls down a lot, but he really prefers walking now.
What is happening to my baby?
Noah on the day he was blessed.
Friday, November 14, 2008
Happy Birthday Grandpa!
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Make Way For Ducklings
The story takes place in Boston, much of it in the Public Garden, as Mr. and Mrs. Mallard search for and finally locate the perfect place to raise ducklings. There really is a Public Garden in Boston and it really does have Swan Boats. There is even a bronze sculpture of Mrs. Mallard and her eight ducklings. If I ever make it to Boston, you can be sure I will visit the Public Garden.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Giving
When I went away to college I moved in with my grandparents on my Dad’s side. My Mom’s parents just lived half a mile down the road, so I got to see plenty of them as well. I feel a little guilty now that I look back on that time. My grandparents and a couple of aunts and uncles did so much to take care of me, and I am afraid that I did not act very grateful at the time. I see now that I would have had a really difficult time without all of them. In fact I was probably a little spoiled. My grandma even packed a lunch for me every day so that I wouldn’t have to spend money on lunch! My grandparents and aunts and uncles gave to me in very big ways: feeding me, housing me, letting me borrow a vehicle if mine wasn’t running, fixing my car when it wasn’t running, driving me from Rexburg to Salt Lake so that I could fly home for Christmas, letting me cry on their shoulder when I needed to.
Other people outside of my family have given to me in big ways too. Almost exactly a year ago I was very pregnant with my 5th baby. Two wonderful ladies from church, my visiting teachers, took great care of me. They watched my kids while I went to appointments, they cleaned my house, they fed us when the baby was born, and watched my kids some more so that I could get a little sleep. When I was a week away from my due date, I was on my way to the hospital to get some of the paperwork out of the way early. My two youngest girls were with me. We got into a little car accident, and thankfully everyone was just fine, but our van was not drivable. Just as a police officer was asking me if there was anyone I could call to come get me, up walked a dear sister from church. She happened to drive by and see me, and also happened to have two extra car seats in her vehicle. She waited there with me till everything was taken care of, and then took us all home. I’m sure she had other things to do that day, but she put them off so that she could help me.
I could go on and on about the many ways people have given to me. There are way too many to name or count. I was grateful for them when they happened, and I am grateful for them now but for a slightly different reason. This morning as I was walking home from dropping kids off at school, it started to rain pretty hard. I was not prepared for this. But I had been thinking about this post and all the ways I have been blessed by others, and I was so happy. I was soaking wet and still had half a mile to walk, but I was so thankful that I could not be grumpy about the rain. (Noah was covered and dry. Somehow I was prepared to keep him dry.) What I’m saying is that all those people who have given to me are really still giving to me. Just thinking of them makes me happy. Those people and the memories I have remind me that most of all my Heavenly Father loves me. As President Spencer W. Kimball said, “God does notice us, and he watches over us. But it is usually through another person that he meets our needs. Therefore, it is vital that we serve each other in the kingdom.” I just saw that I am using the same quote as Cocoa, but that's ok. It's worth reading a time or two or more.
Friday, November 7, 2008
5$ Well Spent
Thursday, November 6, 2008
I Didn't Plan To Be A Witch
I had read little bits of this book a few years ago, but now finally read the whole thing. I really enjoyed it, especially the parts where she describes some crazy days at her house. Maybe she exaggerates, and maybe it’s because she has nine kids and I only have five, but they were way crazier than anything we have ever experienced here. That made me feel a little better about things. There are 31 chapters and each is written on a certain topic. Each chapter is pretty short and can be read independently so that was pretty nice. Since there is so much in this book, I thought I’d just write about a few specific chapters.
Chapter 3. The Key: Simplify, Simplify, Simplify. This chapter lists and explains 16 ways to simplify your life. Some that really struck me are: Set time limits for routine tasks. I used to have to do this when I was in school to get my work done, and I find it still works wonders for me. Encourage older children to take responsibility for younger children. This one is so great! Stephen and Anne are really good at getting shoes on littler people and getting their teeth brushed. And Naomi goes to the bathroom much more willingly when Ellen takes her as opposed to me! Use the toughest times to realize that the normal times aren’t so bad. Borrow four more children for a week and learn that your usual routine isn’t as difficult as you thought. I have to laugh about this one because about two days after I read it we ended up having four extra children stay at our house for about 24 hours while their mom had a baby. Life did seem pretty relaxed the next day!
Chapter 15. The Kid Is Always Right. In this chapter she talks about hearing a speaker at a business conference on the subject of “the customer is always right.” When asked what happens if the customer really is wrong the speaker said, “The customer is never wrong! Neither party is right or wrong. You have to try to look at the problem through the other person’s eyes. You will find that by looking at the problem from his perspective, although it may not be correct from your perspective, you can see why he thinks he is right. It’s often hard to take, but a great manager can always say: ‘I see your point. I understand what you mean. You’re right. Let’s work this out.’” Then she explains that the same thing can apply to our relationships with our children. She says, “Too often, we become authoritarian parents who think we are always right. When it comes to a conflict, we don’t bother to give the same courtesy to our children as we would to a brother or friend.” That kind of stung me because I realized that I do that all the time! I was feeling so terrible and then get to this part. “After all, one conflict settled with sympathy and understanding out of every ten conflicts that occur is better than none, especially if we understand each child often enough to let him know that we really care.” Life is all about trying to do a little better each day, not about being perfect the very next day. So … I will try to keep this in mind. The Kid Is Always Right!
Chapters 28 - 29. Enjoying the Present – No Matter How Bad It Is! and Keep Looking Up. These two chapters go together in my mind because they remind me of a couple of talks from this last General Conference. Of course, the first is President Monson’s talk, Finding Joy in the Journey. The other is Elder Bednar’s talk, Pray Always. In chapter 28 Linda Eyre says, “Gratitude can help us enjoy the present.” When thinking of all the good things there are in life, and all the blessings I have been given, and thinking of all the wonderful times I am having with my children right now, how can I help but be happy? And when I pray to my loving Heavenly Father who has given all this happiness to me, and I thank Him for it, how can I not be full of joy?
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
The New Sheriff
Monday, November 3, 2008
Halloween and Then Some
(Naomi doesn't look very dressed up because most of her costume was lost until about an hour after the kids went trick or treating. Oh well!)
Noah is up to about 6 steps in a row. And he loves to just stand up all over the place.